Sunday, October 18, 2015

Ask Yourself, What Do You Really Need to Complain About?

She sees one or two a day. A complaint in various ways. Something she believes uneccesary for a person that has so much to be blessed about in life. Though it makes her sick seeing what she sees, she wonders, why so many complaints and not enough gratefulness and hearts at ease. Life could use some blessed souls.


I was raised in a family that taught me to appreciate everything I have in life and not take those things for granted, even the smallest details. Like Papa always says, we have lots of reasons to feel blessed whatever the circumstance. And that's something I truly believe in and what I try my best to apply on a daily basis point of view until today.

Mama, on the other hand always completes that statement by reminding that everything happens for a reason, and that reason will one day lead to something good or something even better in store. Just a few of so many life advices from two of the most amazing-hearted souls. The ones I really look up to in life. The ones that rarely complain about what they go through even at times when they stumble upon a bump along the road.

There's always a continuity of reminders for me to look at others who might not be as fortunate and always feel grateful for what I already own in life. Also, to look on the brighter side of everything and grab a good lesson out of it. Simply, to be grateful and feel blessed in any way.

Despite that, I won't be a hypocrite and say I don't complain about certain moments in life. Because I do. And I guess everyone does at certain points. But honestly it gets quite annoying seeing such an amount of people that complain way too much on social terms. It tends to become more of a habit and sadly for some, ways to seek virtual attention. Even when you know it has nothing to do whatsoever with you and it's purely none of your business either, the worst part is that sometimes, someone's complaints can take a toll on you.

It questions that part of humanity people store in their hearts. It makes you think of how that old man you meet on the street, who walks miles everyday under such heat or trickles of rain, just to sell what he has to feed his family for the night, but still manages to put on a wide smile and pinch a little happiness out of a hard day.

But instead, you bump along to people you know or strangers along the way, complaining about the things that just make you go "Geez, like seriously?"

Take time to casually ask yourself, what is it that you really need to complain about, with all the things you already have in life? You go to sleep on something decent. You wake up knowing you have a purpose. You eat more than you can feed. You're physically still functioning. You have a roof under your head. And that list of unrecognized blessings just goes on....

Or are you constantly complaining because you feel like you have no one there for you? Well maybe it's life's way of saying you need to make a better version of yourself and at the same time make a better vertical connection between you and God. Because you can't blame others for that. It's something that comes from within. Something only you know how to deal with.

It might sound heaps easy to say or type. But seriously, take your time to see the good things out of a bad situation. It'll make you feel heaps better and not blame whatever situation you're going through. This topic would surely need more pages and chapters. But let's just say that next time you feel like complaining, think of all the other reasons why you don't need to complain. And if you feel you've complained too much in the past, it's always better to  start fresh late, rather than never. A good change always deserves another chance.

Saturday, October 10, 2015

Don't Let Them Let You

She cared too much. She loved too deep. But what did she get? A stack of feelings which pulled her back and broke her apart finding it hard to see clearly....


There should be no place for people to step on your heart and leave you a scar or feel unappreciated in any way. To take control of yourself might be easy to say yet hard to do. But as you face the things you do in life, you find a way of getting there.

Most have probably been in that kind of state where you unconditionally accept the things you actually have an option for saying no to. The times where you stay in a certain zone that lets you flow with other people's mind but then make you forget your own. You drift into the dimension where you do you what you feel is right for others and sacrifice the chance to speak up because all you want to do is make them feel happy, loved and appreciated.

Like loving someone too deep that you eventually become blinded along the way. You let them grip your heart and control it in whatsoever way. You set your own feelings to a certain stance where you can no longer compromise with logic because the heart plays too much of a role. You consider everything becoming okay that you let that significant other do what they think is okay, and make you feel that it's just a normal feeling. Which obviously isn't.

Perhaps those pop-up people that run back and forth in your life only when they feel the need to. The ones that don't consider your presence. The ones that use you in vague or even obvious ways. You know the difference. It might be what other people do, but don't let that become you.

For most, it's part of the process of finding what you believe is true. For seeking those inner thoughts within.

It took me ages to learn to let myself appreciate me as a person - me as myself. To appreciate my own thoughts, my heart and the options I have. Though it's been quite a process, I'm slowly getting there. I've been able to say what I like and what I don't. And I guess it simply starts from there.

Don't welcome negativity in your heart and at the same time don't let yourself feel unappreciated. Put on a shield and block all that from entering. Know where you stand and never let other people put you down. Don't let them infect the positivity your willing to build in yourself. But in terms of that, still do your best to deliver what's good for yourself and others around you.

Appreciate your own being by letting yourself choose what you feel is best. By saying goodbye to what makes you feel like rubbish. By leaving the things that make your bright days dull.

There's more to life. More reasons to wake up in the morning and feel blessed that you have a whole day coming up ahead waiting for it to be filled with splendid moments. When you feel like situations are starting to put you down, don't let them. Because you have that option, in your mind and your heart. It's hard to do, but you'll eventually get there.

Monday, October 5, 2015

Well Hello There, I'm Back!

After more than three years leaving this blog to rust, Khairiyah Sartika-the-lazy-procrastinator has finally made her random decision to continue what she actually started with passion. Yeah, writing, blabbering and letting out all sorts of whatevers that pop out of her random mind for her own sake of ventilating, storing words and memories, also re-nourishing her goldfish memory.......


Exactly why now, I don't really know. But the urge to keep writing (out of daily professional purposes) has always had me tugging back and forth to come back here and start writing again. I contemplated a few times on getting this blog active again due to the fact that Twitter, Instagram and Path caught more of my daily attention. But there always comes that time when you just feel like pouring all these things you have swirling in your head, and then it just goes to waste because you just can't be bothered. And a platform like this is close to perfecto.

But when you come to think of it again in another perspective, in five or ten years time, the things you write down today, one day become great source of reminders, flashback moments and something to cherish for a lifetime. And as a bonus, perhaps becomes a piece that someone can casually read with their own state of mind.

As for today, reading what I've been writing these past years have become quite interesting actually. Some I don't even remember happening eventually become reminders of moments forgotten in the past. Some I can laugh to and some to reminisce about all over again. But that's what I kinda mean.

You write because you want to. Whatever outcome it brings later on, well that's a part of what you reap after you've planted.

I don't know what i'm really trying to say, but hey Tick-Tack-Talk is FINALLY back *Cheers* ♥

Saturday, July 14, 2012

A Few of The Best Around, in Ups & Downs

@Congo Restaurant, Dago, Bandung
@Universitas Padjadjaran, Jatinangor
@Munchies Bistro, Gandaria City, Jakarta
Super blessed to have them

Saturday, October 1, 2011

Life's lesson(s)

These past months have been full of ups and downs, smiles and frowns. And one thing I really learnt was the art of gain and loss. You know, when you gain something then you lose another or it's vice versa. You see, these previous periods have been surprisingly special yet at the same time extraordinary in a way.
Well, everyone has a past and there's always a story behind it and whatever happened with that chapter now has to go in the memory box, good or bad, positive or negative, love or dislike. Lock it up and let life go it's way and once in a while peek a little to remember and learn from those moments. To be honest yes it did hurt and I acted like everything was okay. To put a smile on my face and walk around was easy but deep down no one knew. And now I know what that kind of loss feels like. A loss of intimacy, friendship and of course, feelings - Thank God I dealt with it well. God answered a little prayer. Certain ones came along - either say it a coincidence or acciddent (though there are no acciddents in life) but things and situations finally lead to an enlightment, maybe for me, it was my Renaissance.

From that cycle I knew and realized.. Yes, loss was painful and it's a thing we never want it to happen but you gotta deal with the fact that you will and how you're gonna cope with it. Either a family member, friend, lover, pet, or anything. Eventually you'll know what you were fighting for and not regret anything about it but keep the memories as a life lesson to take with you through the days ahead.

No pain, no gain? Right? No? Yes? For me, aha yep. Pain led me to a state where I had time to think about things. Make better use of time, work harder in certain aspects, appreciate the work of maintaining and just let things flow. I gained many things and I thank God for every single little thing including a special enlightment in my present days, someone really special now. God, just full of surprises.

So gain and loss is like you and your wardrobe. You lose, donate, throw out a few clothes out though it's hard to chose which ones, either feel good about it or instead regret and sook about it. But then maybe someone will pop up and send you a present, maybe you'll plan to go on a shopping day with your friends or maybe you might just start some DIY's and upgrade a few old shirts - if you get the point. Gain and loss is a part of life, like it or not, it's how you deal with it that'll make you feel a thousand times better. And hopefully each gain, each loss gives a positive effect in our lives :)

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Wouldn't this be nice :)

"A hug is a handshake from the heart. A hug is a great gift - one size fits all, and it's easy to exchange. If you're alone, I'll be your shadow. If you want to cry, I'll be your shoulder. If you want a hug, I'll be your pillow. If you need to be happy, I'll be your smile. But anytime you need a friend, I'll just be me..."